Have you ever been on a blind date? I haven’t but I am going on one today. A friend has set us up – he seems to think we will be compatible. In fact, the friend has hand-picked this bloke for me.
I’m nervous. What if it is awkward and we can’t talk? Maybe he will take one look at me and decide that my weight is going to be a major problem in our new relationship. I have so many questions …. it has been so long since I’ve had to do this. You know – sell yourself!
When people are at that getting to know you phase, pace can be everything. Sometimes one person wants to share everything (ME) and the other person wants to take things a little more slowly (EVERYBODY ELSE)! Holding back can make me seem weirder than usual. It can make me share nothing at all or it can make me talk incessantly …. about inappropriate things. It can also cause me to flirt at inappropriate times and places!!
Next issue is what do you wear at these times? I want to be comfortable but also look so good! I want to be honest about who I am but I don’t want to project the total disaster that I feel inside. What if he thinks that I always look this good, when I know I won’t be able to pull this confident, sassy look off every time we see each other? Then again I don’t want to scare him off.
Smell …. I must smell good! Nothing worse than being stinky on a first meeting. What perfume do I choose? Something fresh and confident? But that’s not really who I am. Or something a little dark and broody? That’s more me but those kind of perfumes give me a headache and can be a little scary for some people.
Then there is my humour. This is a key for me. The death jokes! The mental illness jokes! The adult men as children jokes! The menopause jokes! The medication jokes! Need I go on ……
The fact that I am always going to have lots of other men in my life – my three adult sons; their dead father – Adrian; Rod Stewart; Robbie Williams; Jax Teller; Rayland Givens …….
To soon? What to tell and what to keep until later? The fact that my best friend is my cat! Now that’s should slow things down. That I’m a blogger – yep that should STOP things completely!
I’m going on a blind date and these are the things that my mind is going over.
Dr Luke …. I sure do hope you are ready for your new patient, with the long appointment booked for 1 pm this afternoon!