I did it!
I went on my blind date and I didn’t die! I didn’t embarrass myself by flirting inappropriately and of course, I did over share! In fact, I gave him my last blog post to read as an introduction and Dr Luke almost fell off his chair laughing.
He wasn’t what I expected, he was younger. He had a bright cheery, manner but with a sincerity that rang true, he told me that he understood that I was grieving my break up with my old GP and he wouldn’t try to replace him but simply support and guide me in my quest for health. Wise man!
Yes, we spoke about my weight …… on a first date. It was a supportive talk – not about numbers but about taking care of myself and supporting the endeavours already taking place. He listened intently, then praised the great things I am doing. Wise man!
As I had known my last GP on a fairly personal level, I enquired if I could “ask questions about his personal life because I’m sure that there were things I might be able to help him with.” Also, I told him “I’m better at give and take relationships!!” He smiled graciously, and replied “that I could ask anything I wanted but he might choose not to answer everything I asked!” Wise man! He is married with a 4 month baby girl! I was happy with that amount of sharing.
Mostly, I talked for the half hour appointment and he listened. Towards the end, I asked him if he had any suggestions or anything that he thought I might change? He said he certainly had some ideas but no way was he interested in doing anything quickly. Rather, that we would take time to get to know each other better and that as I was moving forward and not backward, he would rather leave everything as is at the moment. Wise man!
With that, he checked that all my scripts were up to date, that my referrals & mental health plans were in order, told me how much he liked & respected the work my psychologist was doing then wrote a few things on a post-it note to talk about with her during my next visit. He thanked me for trusting him with my care and told me to keep writing ….. Wise Man!
My first ever blind date seems to have been a success. It was uncomfortable in the beginning. It was a relief when it was over. And I will NOT be signing up for RSVP or Tinder anytime soon.