The Abi Diaries (part three)

I’m in the middle of a 2 day 1 night stay by Abi.  I woke at 5am this morning and she is still sleeping, so thought I’d get some thoughts down before she wakes.  Have I told you lately, that she’s not a baby any more?  Well, she isn’t and I have to say when she called me last week, to tell me that she hadn’t had a sleepover at my little house these holidays, I very nearly lost it!!  I mean, she’s my baby right and she was asking when it would be “suitable” to come and stay and maybe Friday/Saturday would be best and would I like to stay for dinner when I drive her home?

Abi starts Prep this year and she is ready … leaving me dragging behind on the preparedness stakes.  So this will be my last sleepover with her before school begins to mould her.  Our conversations, have been at times, deep and meaningful and  I am listening closely and learning much.  She is a patient teacher!

This is how our weekend has gone so far.

They arrived, Abi and her family, just after 9:30 am, for morning cuppa and a chat.  The kids, Abi has 2 brothers, went in search of Fev, my furbaby, then settled in my only spare room that, apparently turns into Abi’s Room the moment she arrives.  Her mum and I sat down for a catch up but it was only a matter of moments before we could hear her calling for help because in her words “T is messing up my room and he won’t share my things!”  Secretly, my heart skipped a beat – she knows she belong in my home!2015-01-16 07.29.26

After, coffee and donuts and an hour of chat, Abi’s Mum and brothers were on their way home, leaving Abi and I cheering on my doorstep!  Hurrah! They are gone.  Girl time …. but not for long!  Her overnight bag had been left in the car, so back they came!  Thank goodness!  That bag contained important things like Zelfs and My Little Ponies as well as clothes and toothbrush etc.

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The day continued with playing, watching a movie, shopping, eating and swimming.  Each activity had its life lesson for me!  Each activity showed me both glimpses of my special baby girl and the independent school girl that is developing within.  She chose to watch a movie that had been too scary the last time she was here, Alice In Wonderland, only this time she knew the story and the characters.  She coped really well but crawled to lie on top of me during several scary bits “because she felt safe on top of me and my body felt like a squishy, comfortable mattress but it did have some big lumpy bits!”

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She wondered why I had bought her some Shopkins to collect rather than more Zelfs?  I told Abi that I thought her mummy would love the fact that I had introduced a whole new collecting world that she previously didn’t know about! (I got this idea from one of my favourite blogs Enjoying the Small Things by Kelle Hampton).  Of course when we went shopping I accidently bought some more and the seed was well and truly planted “I really, really like Shopkins and I can show Mummy where to find them in Coles!”  You’re welcome, Abi’s Mum!

As we drove out of my unit complex, Abi asked why it was that there were so many little houses where I lived.  I told her that there were lots of people, like me, who needed somewhere small to live because they didn’t have family close by or their family had moved away. Tears sprang to my eyes, as she replied “But Mandy, you have us – we are your family!  You could come and live with us!”  Bless her heart and bless her family for giving her such a heart.

We went swimming at my friends house and I was so proud of this little poppet for the love and friendliness that she so easily shares with my friends.  We ate chips until they came out of her ears because I knew dinner would be a little later than she was used to but that didn’t stop her from informing me that she was starving the minute we got home and every 5 minutes there after!  It also, didn’t stop her from being full up 5 minutes after she started eating dinner!  She did, however have room for some yoghurt!

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Abi has been asleep for 11 hours now.  That is one of the wonderful things about her.  She goes to bed and sleeps.  But any minute she will be up and out and our second day together will begin.  We have more adventures to have, questions to ask, places to go and I have so much stuff to learn.

I can’t wait!

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The Abi Diaries (part two)

I really don’t get it!  Having only been the mother of sons, little girls obsession with changing their outfits multiple times a day is a complete mystery to me.  Now I know I am generalizing here but it’s my Blog so I am allowed!  Don’t get me wrong, I love clothes as much as the next girl but I do not remember wearing more than one outfit a day as a youngster, unless I was going out or swimming.  You also, need to know that all the boys in my life, when little, have been only too happy to dress up when the time was right.

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BerlinBoy – legs for miles! It must be the heels because he is the shortest!
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BabyBoy had expensive tastes!

My gorgeous god-daughter, Abi, is a totally different level of fashionista!  She loves clothes and at 4 years of age, has a very definite opinion of what she will and won’t wear.  Did I mention accessories?  That girl knows what she wants!  So after having spent a wonderful day with Abi, while her Mum & Dad were at work, I decided to look back over some of her best outfits and the reason she gave for the fashion story!  Some are from awhile ago but they are too good to ignore.  Some of the photos are taken by her parents and sent to my phone to enjoy.  Others I have taken when babysitting!

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The first series of photos show Abi’s frilly frou frou stage.  If there was a tutu to be found – you should definitely wear it or them!  Over your pj’s, your nappy, your mother’s boots or if the occasion was really special – over another few tutu’s!

As Abi grew – it became all about the accessories!

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They are pretty she says!  Too much?  No she says!  Abi loves to clash her colours and accessories.  Almost but not quite, matching colours and BIG flowers are the go!  Any colour big flowers because they are pretty and make you smile she says!

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One of Abi’s favourite things to do is costume dress up.  Whether its a party, a game or just to read a story – dress ups are a favourite.  Life is one great big occasion!

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I love this little fashionista with all my heart and if she continues to bring smiles and colour and happiness to the world with her outfits – I can cope! But I don’t think I will be following her beauty tips any time soon…….Abi cream

The Abi Diaries (part one).

I don’t have a daughter!  Just three lively, creative boys.  Well, men actually, because that’s what they are now.  I have nieces & great nieces and I have god daughters and I have Abigail!  Abi is my youngest god daughter by about 20 years!  She came along when I thought my godmothering days of little girls had ended!  But I’m so glad they hadn’t!  I love and care about all my god children but Abi is something else!

I’ve known Abi’s mum since she was 6 years old.  She was one of the first helpers I met when we moved to Brisbane.  We were moving into a new church house and when the truck with our belongings arrived, who was there to help unpack but Abi’s mum and family!!  I can remember Abi’s mum opening the boxes with glee, proclaiming her wonderment at all the new and exciting things as she emptied  box after box!  On the floor!  Of any room she chose!!  I grabbed Adrian (my husband) & dragged him into the bathroom, whispering “Who are these people and do we have to like them?” 

But I digress … Abi came into my life almost a year after Adrian had died!  I was lonely & craving cuddles.  And then there she was, this gorgeous little pink bundle.  Shared so selflessly with me by her Mum & Nana.  I really didn’t think it was possible to love someone else’s child as much as your own but I soon found out – it is!  My heart was full to the brim with so much love.

Abi is 4 years old now and she sometimes comes to stay over at my place.  We have fun!  We have tea party’s, go places, buy stuff and I love to brush her beautiful, long, silky hair.  She is bright and energetic and smart and, man, has she got STYLE!  She is interested in all the things my boys were and many they were not!  She notices stuff!  Like new clothes, shoes, hairstyles.  Like when I haven’t shaved my legs or I have a menopausal pimple or how my boobs are BIG & JIGGLEY (not at all like Nana’s or Mummy’s)!

If you had told me that almost 6 years after Adrian’s death, I would be making sure all those things you do before going on a date, are once again being done – before a 4 year old comes to visit – I would not have believed you!  But, yes, I check that my clothes, makeup  & personal grooming are all up to scratch when Abi comes to visit!  If I don’t, she will notice – that stray chin hair, stinky breath, lack of earrings or old daggy clothes!

I am so thankful for this little ray of sunshine.  She keeps me on my toes and she freely gives me love and laughter and giggles and cuddles.  We will continue to grow together and I hope I can be a special person in her life forever!

And that question I asked Adrian all those years ago –  “Who are these people and do we have like them?”    Well, I’m so glad  that they became my Australia family and I don’t only like them – I love them!

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