I’m in the middle of a 2 day 1 night stay by Abi. I woke at 5am this morning and she is still sleeping, so thought I’d get some thoughts down before she wakes. Have I told you lately, that she’s not a baby any more? Well, she isn’t and I have to say when she called me last week, to tell me that she hadn’t had a sleepover at my little house these holidays, I very nearly lost it!! I mean, she’s my baby right and she was asking when it would be “suitable” to come and stay and maybe Friday/Saturday would be best and would I like to stay for dinner when I drive her home?
Abi starts Prep this year and she is ready … leaving me dragging behind on the preparedness stakes. So this will be my last sleepover with her before school begins to mould her. Our conversations, have been at times, deep and meaningful and I am listening closely and learning much. She is a patient teacher!
This is how our weekend has gone so far.
They arrived, Abi and her family, just after 9:30 am, for morning cuppa and a chat. The kids, Abi has 2 brothers, went in search of Fev, my furbaby, then settled in my only spare room that, apparently turns into Abi’s Room the moment she arrives. Her mum and I sat down for a catch up but it was only a matter of moments before we could hear her calling for help because in her words “T is messing up my room and he won’t share my things!” Secretly, my heart skipped a beat – she knows she belong in my home!
After, coffee and donuts and an hour of chat, Abi’s Mum and brothers were on their way home, leaving Abi and I cheering on my doorstep! Hurrah! They are gone. Girl time …. but not for long! Her overnight bag had been left in the car, so back they came! Thank goodness! That bag contained important things like Zelfs and My Little Ponies as well as clothes and toothbrush etc.
The day continued with playing, watching a movie, shopping, eating and swimming. Each activity had its life lesson for me! Each activity showed me both glimpses of my special baby girl and the independent school girl that is developing within. She chose to watch a movie that had been too scary the last time she was here, Alice In Wonderland, only this time she knew the story and the characters. She coped really well but crawled to lie on top of me during several scary bits “because she felt safe on top of me and my body felt like a squishy, comfortable mattress but it did have some big lumpy bits!”
She wondered why I had bought her some Shopkins to collect rather than more Zelfs? I told Abi that I thought her mummy would love the fact that I had introduced a whole new collecting world that she previously didn’t know about! (I got this idea from one of my favourite blogs Enjoying the Small Things by Kelle Hampton). Of course when we went shopping I accidently bought some more and the seed was well and truly planted “I really, really like Shopkins and I can show Mummy where to find them in Coles!” You’re welcome, Abi’s Mum!
As we drove out of my unit complex, Abi asked why it was that there were so many little houses where I lived. I told her that there were lots of people, like me, who needed somewhere small to live because they didn’t have family close by or their family had moved away. Tears sprang to my eyes, as she replied “But Mandy, you have us – we are your family! You could come and live with us!” Bless her heart and bless her family for giving her such a heart.
We went swimming at my friends house and I was so proud of this little poppet for the love and friendliness that she so easily shares with my friends. We ate chips until they came out of her ears because I knew dinner would be a little later than she was used to but that didn’t stop her from informing me that she was starving the minute we got home and every 5 minutes there after! It also, didn’t stop her from being full up 5 minutes after she started eating dinner! She did, however have room for some yoghurt!
Abi has been asleep for 11 hours now. That is one of the wonderful things about her. She goes to bed and sleeps. But any minute she will be up and out and our second day together will begin. We have more adventures to have, questions to ask, places to go and I have so much stuff to learn.
I can’t wait!